Comments on: Fear Me http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/ Fri, 10 Sep 2010 17:16:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Violet the Verbose http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-18466 Violet the Verbose Tue, 20 Mar 2007 22:30:10 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/#comment-18466 My mother-in-law used to tell her kids she still had her right to abortion, even when they were 21. ha ha! My mother-in-law used to tell her kids she still had her right to abortion, even when they were 21. ha ha!

]]> By: Violet the Verbose http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-18465 Violet the Verbose Tue, 20 Mar 2007 22:28:33 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/#comment-18465 I read this a kazillion times but never got around to responding, so let me do it now... I am right there with you. When I do actually scare Sweet Pea I feel horrible, especially when she begs me to, "talk nice to me, Mama!" I read this a kazillion times but never got around to responding, so let me do it now… I am right there with you. When I do actually scare Sweet Pea I feel horrible, especially when she begs me to, “talk nice to me, Mama!”

]]> By: April http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-18104 April Sun, 18 Mar 2007 23:40:19 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/#comment-18104 I don't know where the gypsies live. I don't know what works for other mothers. I know that when i use her full name, the princess runs to me with open arms. The prince however, laughs at me. What age it too old to start with the gypsy threat? I've never thought to use it, and I think that it might work on the 7 year old. I don’t know where the gypsies live. I don’t know what works for other mothers. I know that when i use her full name, the princess runs to me with open arms. The prince however, laughs at me. What age it too old to start with the gypsy threat? I’ve never thought to use it, and I think that it might work on the 7 year old.

]]> By: mamaholler http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-18079 mamaholler Sun, 18 Mar 2007 15:21:01 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/#comment-18079 My kids really want to visit Dragon Tales, but not because I threaten them with it. Once your kids know that you're full of crap (about anything) they're going to push you more and more. I often wonder at what age my kids will realize this and put their hands on their hips, telling me that I'm not really going to make them walk home in the snow. Hopefully you will find a solution by then and I can steal it. My kids really want to visit Dragon Tales, but not because I threaten them with it. Once your kids know that you’re full of crap (about anything) they’re going to push you more and more. I often wonder at what age my kids will realize this and put their hands on their hips, telling me that I’m not really going to make them walk home in the snow. Hopefully you will find a solution by then and I can steal it.

]]> By: Freelance Cynic http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-17944 Freelance Cynic Sat, 17 Mar 2007 21:36:46 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/#comment-17944 Spare the rod. Throw the child down the stairs instead... Spare the rod. Throw the child down the stairs instead…

]]> By: Jule Ann http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-17911 Jule Ann Sat, 17 Mar 2007 19:30:09 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/#comment-17911 I'm hesitant to say anything, since I am not a mother, and as such can understand completely if you don't want to hear advice from me. In fact, I'm not even sure you're asking for advice, and if that's the case, then please ignore the rest of this comment. I don't want to step on your toes if you just want to vent your frustration. I know how annoying that can be. But, having worked in childcare a fair amount, and watched a lot of parents in action, I can tell you one thing I know for sure: empty threats will get you nowhere. If you're not really going to sell him to the gyspies, and I expect he knows that you're not really going to sell him to the gypsies, then what motivation does he have to do what you're asking? I like some of the above ideas - threaten to turn off the TV, or to take away toys, or to make him miss dessert. And then, if he still doesn't listen, make sure you actually do what you said you were going to do. I think there is a balance (impossible to get perfect, I'm sure, but good to work towards) between being feared and still being the cool, fun mom. It's not that you really want to be "feared", even, just that you want to be respected enough to be listened to and, when it comes down to it, obeyed. So yeah, there's my thoughts. Make realistic threats, and always follow through. And, for what it's worth, I think you're doing a pretty darned good job at this whole mom thing. I’m hesitant to say anything, since I am not a mother, and as such can understand completely if you don’t want to hear advice from me. In fact, I’m not even sure you’re asking for advice, and if that’s the case, then please ignore the rest of this comment. I don’t want to step on your toes if you just want to vent your frustration. I know how annoying that can be.

But, having worked in childcare a fair amount, and watched a lot of parents in action, I can tell you one thing I know for sure: empty threats will get you nowhere. If you’re not really going to sell him to the gyspies, and I expect he knows that you’re not really going to sell him to the gypsies, then what motivation does he have to do what you’re asking? I like some of the above ideas – threaten to turn off the TV, or to take away toys, or to make him miss dessert. And then, if he still doesn’t listen, make sure you actually do what you said you were going to do. I think there is a balance (impossible to get perfect, I’m sure, but good to work towards) between being feared and still being the cool, fun mom. It’s not that you really want to be “feared”, even, just that you want to be respected enough to be listened to and, when it comes down to it, obeyed. So yeah, there’s my thoughts. Make realistic threats, and always follow through.

And, for what it’s worth, I think you’re doing a pretty darned good job at this whole mom thing.

]]> By: Gidge http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-17887 Gidge Sat, 17 Mar 2007 17:25:03 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/#comment-17887 I think I have missed something as I don't understand previous comment.s But I love tacos, why didn't they invite me over for tacos? I'm a nice person. I think I have missed something as I don’t understand previous comment.s
But I love tacos, why didn’t they invite me over for tacos?
I’m a nice person.

]]> By: Hello http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-17860 Hello Sat, 17 Mar 2007 15:28:36 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/#comment-17860 Donna Deslippe better known as Bitter Bitch at italk2much.com has no room to talk about others' well being or blog. After she's done throwing her cyber bombs she'll tuck tail and run as usual. Actually I'm amazed she hasn't deleted or made her blog private already. Yeah that Donna, Bitter Bitch, Just Donna, AntiSocial Bitch, Miss Ann she's the real authority on blogging, mothering and mental illness.... puleeze. How many children did she "help" raise? Seven? If we're claiming our friend's children as our own put down as mother to 76 m'kay. Anyone else notice how Donna copys everything that insane chic Rachel does? Rachel has exlover drama within the week Donna will have exlover drama. Rachel has tacos for dinner well what do you know Donna has tacos for dinner. Oh that's right their BFF so it's not childish in the least. /sarcasm. Donna Deslippe better known as Bitter Bitch at italk2much.com has no room to talk about others’ well being or blog. After she’s done throwing her cyber bombs she’ll tuck tail and run as usual. Actually I’m amazed she hasn’t deleted or made her blog private already. Yeah that Donna, Bitter Bitch, Just Donna, AntiSocial Bitch, Miss Ann she’s the real authority on blogging, mothering and mental illness…. puleeze. How many children did she “help” raise? Seven? If we’re claiming our friend’s children as our own put down as mother to 76 m’kay.

Anyone else notice how Donna copys everything that insane chic Rachel does? Rachel has exlover drama within the week Donna will have exlover drama. Rachel has tacos for dinner well what do you know Donna has tacos for dinner. Oh that’s right their BFF so it’s not childish in the least. /sarcasm.

]]> By: Miz BoheMia http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-17778 Miz BoheMia Sat, 17 Mar 2007 10:23:56 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/#comment-17778 Oh the gypsies live in Spain and tell him to be afraid, very afraid! He REALLY does not want to visit Spain! Take it from me! Dios mio! ;) Oh the gypsies live in Spain and tell him to be afraid, very afraid! He REALLY does not want to visit Spain! Take it from me!

Dios mio! ;)

]]> By: Christina http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-17735 Christina Sat, 17 Mar 2007 04:40:04 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/03/16/fear-me/#comment-17735 I know Cordy's currency when it comes to behaving: the TV. I threaten to turn off the TV, and she's suddenly no longer interested in climbing the cat tree or pulling the cushions off the couch. It's sad, but it works. I know Cordy’s currency when it comes to behaving: the TV. I threaten to turn off the TV, and she’s suddenly no longer interested in climbing the cat tree or pulling the cushions off the couch. It’s sad, but it works.

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