Comments on: Fuck 4-year olds http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:50:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Elsabe http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/comment-page-1/#comment-74467 Elsabe Mon, 21 Mar 2011 13:22:43 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/#comment-74467 This really made me giggle while my soon to be four years old daughter sits sulking in her room. I googled "Fucking Fours"... Glad to see that they get through it!! And now she shouting at me that she's not gonna be my friend anymore! PS If I didn't go put her in her room... She may not have made it... This really made me giggle while my soon to be four years old daughter sits sulking in her room. I googled “Fucking Fours”…
Glad to see that they get through it!!
And now she shouting at me that she’s not gonna be my friend anymore!
PS If I didn’t go put her in her room… She may not have made it…

]]> By: Queen of Spain http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/comment-page-1/#comment-69701 Queen of Spain Tue, 09 Mar 2010 22:24:35 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/#comment-69701 It gets better :) It's a phase like all the others. I swear. He'll be 7 this month. It gets better :) It’s a phase like all the others. I swear. He’ll be 7 this month.

]]> By: clark http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/comment-page-1/#comment-69700 clark Tue, 09 Mar 2010 19:31:35 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/#comment-69700 Hi, Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for writing this Blog. i thought we were the only unblessed family in North America! I noticed some of these comments date back to 2007. Can anyone comment on hope after the four year old stage? I'm almost afraid to ask but does it get better? Hi,
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for writing this Blog. i thought we were the only unblessed family in North America! I noticed some of these comments date back to 2007. Can anyone comment on hope after the four year old stage? I’m almost afraid to ask but does it get better?

]]> By: Lindsey http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/comment-page-1/#comment-69252 Lindsey Wed, 03 Feb 2010 02:49:42 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/#comment-69252 This pulled up as I was searching 'discpline strategies for four-year-olds.' LOL! I'm so glad I read this---makes me feel like I'm not alone. Keep up the fight, momma! This pulled up as I was searching ‘discpline strategies for four-year-olds.’ LOL! I’m so glad I read this—makes me feel like I’m not alone. Keep up the fight, momma!

]]> By: Thora http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/comment-page-1/#comment-69075 Thora Sun, 17 Jan 2010 21:04:37 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/#comment-69075 My son will be four in three months, & just in the last month, this whole parenthood-thing has become really challenging again (like two-&-a-half was). I'm a single mom, too... so there's no one to give me a break when I need to scream. I do not hit him, nor would I, but I do yell, & it tears me btwn guilt & frustration (both at myself & him). He whines CONSTANTLY (who knew there were so many dissonant pitches & melodies!), he is defiant, & his latest tactic to not do what I've asked him to (such as cleaning his room, going to the bathroom if it's been awhile, etc.) is to say that he's scared. But he just did that very chore five minutes before without being scared! Argghhhhh!!! P.S. I found this blog by googling "Fucking fours." I hear ya on "You’re acting in such a way I need to research how to deal with you?" From the date this was posted, it looks like yours is about seven now. Lucky! :) My son will be four in three months, & just in the last month, this whole parenthood-thing has become really challenging again (like two-&-a-half was). I’m a single mom, too… so there’s no one to give me a break when I need to scream. I do not hit him, nor would I, but I do yell, & it tears me btwn guilt & frustration (both at myself & him). He whines CONSTANTLY (who knew there were so many dissonant pitches & melodies!), he is defiant, & his latest tactic to not do what I’ve asked him to (such as cleaning his room, going to the bathroom if it’s been awhile, etc.) is to say that he’s scared. But he just did that very chore five minutes before without being scared! Argghhhhh!!!
P.S. I found this blog by googling “Fucking fours.” I hear ya on “You’re acting in such a way I need to research how to deal with you?” From the date this was posted, it looks like yours is about seven now. Lucky! :)

]]> By: son http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/comment-page-1/#comment-66507 son Mon, 11 May 2009 21:21:02 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/#comment-66507 this may or may not help you, but it did wonders for us: 1. imagine your life as a sitcom 2. imagine watching the sitcom and how much you would laugh at the mom who has this obnoxious child 3. laugh out loud. My 4 year old is more than hell on wheels. Lets see, just today: threw sand right in the face of a 1 year old girl, threw a bowl of cottage cheese in to the neighbor's back yard, hit his 5 year old sister in the head with who knows what...and it is only 2PM. We use NVC (non-violent communication), so we don't have the option to spank, but I know the urge. Sometimes I get so frustrated and sad I want to cry out, "what happened to my life?!" We found that the more draconian we became with him, the more aggressive and frustrated he became. I truly believe that children act aggressively when they have a very strong unmet need (security, connection, sleep, etc.) They act aggressively because they don't have the right tools for communicating their needs. It is our job as parents to help them identify these needs and get them met without violence. Some times it is like magic, it works so well, other times i have a hard time knowing what the need is! Work in progress! this may or may not help you, but it did wonders for us:

1. imagine your life as a sitcom
2. imagine watching the sitcom and how much you would laugh at the mom who has this obnoxious child
3. laugh out loud.

My 4 year old is more than hell on wheels. Lets see, just today: threw sand right in the face of a 1 year old girl, threw a bowl of cottage cheese in to the neighbor’s back yard, hit his 5 year old sister in the head with who knows what…and it is only 2PM.

We use NVC (non-violent communication), so we don’t have the option to spank, but I know the urge. Sometimes I get so frustrated and sad I want to cry out, “what happened to my life?!”

We found that the more draconian we became with him, the more aggressive and frustrated he became. I truly believe that children act aggressively when they have a very strong unmet need (security, connection, sleep, etc.) They act aggressively because they don’t have the right tools for communicating their needs. It is our job as parents to help them identify these needs and get them met without violence. Some times it is like magic, it works so well, other times i have a hard time knowing what the need is! Work in progress!

]]> By: Queen of Spain http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/comment-page-1/#comment-64123 Queen of Spain Thu, 06 Nov 2008 23:23:09 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/#comment-64123 Dear totally disgusted- you've never had a single bad day with your kid? ever? I've never once laid even a feather on my child and he's more loved than anything in the world. Be disgusted all you like but understand that parent blogs are a place to vent. They are place to scream at the top of your lungs when you can't scream at the kid. I even detail in that post (which I am now laughing at because I remember his hitting phase with laughs now) that 'but no.' because instead I researched and read books on the matter. So get a grip and learn about blogs, clearly you don't know or understand how/why they are even around. Dear totally disgusted- you’ve never had a single bad day with your kid? ever? I’ve never once laid even a feather on my child and he’s more loved than anything in the world. Be disgusted all you like but understand that parent blogs are a place to vent. They are place to scream at the top of your lungs when you can’t scream at the kid. I even detail in that post (which I am now laughing at because I remember his hitting phase with laughs now) that ‘but no.’ because instead I researched and read books on the matter.

So get a grip and learn about blogs, clearly you don’t know or understand how/why they are even around.

]]> By: Totally Disgusted http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/comment-page-1/#comment-64122 Totally Disgusted Thu, 06 Nov 2008 22:51:27 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/#comment-64122 After reading your blog I fiind myself very concerned for the safety of your child. A blog like this where I live would get Child Services attention and they would most certainly investigate the parent. Thoughts are the first steps to actions. You should be ashamed of yourself. I too am a parent of one of "THOSE" kids. He came to us as a foster child and we opened our hearts and our home to him. I couldn't love him more if he were my own. He has been a constant struggle to deal with from the time he was old enough to give us hell, but I have never once had thoughts of killing him! Maybe you should have thought about educating yourself before you had a child. What did you expect? Maybe you should have gotten a robot. I strongly suggest seeking medical attention for what is obviously something very wrong with your brain. After reading your blog I fiind myself very concerned for the safety of your child. A blog like this where I live would get Child Services attention and they would most certainly investigate the parent. Thoughts are the first steps to actions. You should be ashamed of yourself.
I too am a parent of one of “THOSE” kids. He came to us as a foster child and we opened our hearts and our home to him. I couldn’t love him more if he were my own. He has been a constant struggle to deal with from the time he was old enough to give us hell, but I have never once had thoughts of killing him!
Maybe you should have thought about educating yourself before you had a child. What did you expect? Maybe you should have gotten a robot.
I strongly suggest seeking medical attention for what is obviously something very wrong with your brain.

]]> By: mary http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/comment-page-1/#comment-31907 mary Sun, 13 May 2007 11:56:39 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/#comment-31907 Our eldest would escalate till I'd had enough of her abusive behavior and then as a last resort I'd spank her. She'd settle right down after that. She is still a drama queen (presently a bridzilla) and she still escalates poor behavior until told in uncertain terms that I've had enough and won't tolerate anymore. I guess kids of all ages need limites. m Our eldest would escalate till I’d had enough of her abusive behavior and then as a last resort I’d spank her. She’d settle right down after that.
She is still a drama queen (presently a bridzilla)
and she still escalates poor behavior until told in uncertain terms that I’ve had enough and won’t tolerate anymore. I guess kids of all ages need limites.
m

]]> By: crunchycarpets http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/comment-page-1/#comment-30388 crunchycarpets Tue, 08 May 2007 17:29:36 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/05/04/fuck-4-year-olds/#comment-30388 Keeerist...I have been frankly afraid to detail my trials with Adam..fucking four and turning frightful five. Everything is fight. He threatens me with no snuggles or hitting. He tries to bribe me. He thinks I am stupid and cannot see or hear him tormenting his sister. I have been told that he hates me, doesn't love me isn't is friend...etc...all for saying it is bedtime. Keeerist…I have been frankly afraid to detail my trials with Adam..fucking four and turning frightful five.

Everything is fight. He threatens me with no snuggles or hitting. He tries to bribe me.
He thinks I am stupid and cannot see or hear him tormenting his sister.

I have been told that he hates me, doesn’t love me isn’t is friend…etc…all for saying it is bedtime.

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