Comments on: Third Base Ain’t What It Used To Be http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/ Mon, 21 May 2012 17:17:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Belinda http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-57835 Belinda Sat, 13 Oct 2007 22:53:05 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/#comment-57835 My sister and I still laugh about how our mother just kept talking and talking during the sex talks...until WE would beg her to stop with the details! ;-) We definitely were never given *any* negative connotations about the act itself, or any sense of shame or guilt about it--and this was in a devout Christian home. It's a good thing she did it, though, because we definitely didn't get any sex education in school. ZERO. My mom is kind of awesome, in case I never mentioned that. My sister and I still laugh about how our mother just kept talking and talking during the sex talks…until WE would beg her to stop with the details! ;-) We definitely were never given *any* negative connotations about the act itself, or any sense of shame or guilt about it–and this was in a devout Christian home. It’s a good thing she did it, though, because we definitely didn’t get any sex education in school. ZERO. My mom is kind of awesome, in case I never mentioned that.

]]> By: supertiff http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-57824 supertiff Fri, 12 Oct 2007 09:35:04 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/#comment-57824 i don't have kids...yet. but i have many younger siblings, and even more younger nieces and nephews. i have to be honest: i cried my way through this post. it's beautiful. i wish i had something better to say, but that's all: beautiful. rock on, girl. i don’t have kids…yet.
but i have many younger siblings, and even more younger nieces and nephews.
i have to be honest: i cried my way through this post.
it’s beautiful.

i wish i had something better to say, but that’s all: beautiful.

rock on, girl.

]]> By: dana http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-57798 dana Tue, 09 Oct 2007 17:29:35 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/#comment-57798 I loved this book. My review will be up on Thursday. :) Great review, Erin! I loved this book. My review will be up on Thursday. :) Great review, Erin!

]]> By: chris http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-57792 chris Mon, 08 Oct 2007 15:55:56 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/#comment-57792 Ya know what hit home most with me??? Letting your girls know they can enjoy sex!!! I so so so did NOT have that. My first 'lesson' was Polaroids of a woman giving birth and a million reasons why I would go to hell if I had sex before I was married. Prince Charming has put up with a lot in our eleven years to help me loosen up and get past my 'fear' of sex and enjoying it. Thank you for this post ;-) Ya know what hit home most with me???

Letting your girls know they can enjoy sex!!! I so so so did NOT have that.

My first ‘lesson’ was Polaroids of a woman giving birth and a million reasons why I would go to hell if I had sex before I was married.

Prince Charming has put up with a lot in our eleven years to help me loosen up and get past my ‘fear’ of sex and enjoying it.

Thank you for this post ;-)

]]> By: Christine http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-57791 Christine Mon, 08 Oct 2007 15:24:24 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/#comment-57791 You're spurring me to have another "Geez Louise! Talk to your kids about sex already!" post. I don't know that I can even say that it's worse in religious circles. I'm meeting women over and over again - from all backgrounds, who are so freaked out about having "that conversation" (when it should be as regular and constant as breathing). I think it's a sad generational thing. The 50's era created a slew of mothers that just did not talk about it. Those kids are now parents who were never shown how to make it a part of raising your kids. You nailed it. It all falls back to your own issues with sex. I may be quoting you! You’re spurring me to have another “Geez Louise! Talk to your kids about sex already!” post.

I don’t know that I can even say that it’s worse in religious circles. I’m meeting women over and over again – from all backgrounds, who are so freaked out about having “that conversation” (when it should be as regular and constant as breathing). I think it’s a sad generational thing. The 50′s era created a slew of mothers that just did not talk about it. Those kids are now parents who were never shown how to make it a part of raising your kids.

You nailed it. It all falls back to your own issues with sex. I may be quoting you!

]]> By: Christine http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-57790 Christine Sun, 07 Oct 2007 23:04:26 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/#comment-57790 Ironically, I stumbled upon CUSS for the first time today, like three blogs ago. I know I need to have some real talks with my son; I'm going to check out this book. Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand I don't know what a male sleeve is. Ironically, I stumbled upon CUSS for the first time today, like three blogs ago.

I know I need to have some real talks with my son; I’m going to check out this book.

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand I don’t know what a male sleeve is.

]]> By: Anonymous http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-57787 Anonymous Sun, 07 Oct 2007 18:14:08 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/#comment-57787 <strong>Third Base Ain't What It Used To Be...</strong> Author reviews new parenting book regarding how to talk about sex (and anatomical differences) to your children. Discussion of what hasn't worked in the past, personally and globally, and how this book recommends ways to fix sex education through par... Third Base Ain’t What It Used To Be…

Author reviews new parenting book regarding how to talk about sex (and anatomical differences) to your children. Discussion of what hasn’t worked in the past, personally and globally, and how this book recommends ways to fix sex education through par…

]]> By: Chris http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-57785 Chris Sun, 07 Oct 2007 15:43:01 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/#comment-57785 because guess what…they are getting them and giving them WHAT?!? My 18 y/o SON is giving blow jobs? How do you know? Is he on that internet thing? LOL Sounds like a great book. I'd like to think I have a few more years before my 8 y/o needs "the talk" but I know better since the girl across the street and her friend both have flashed their boobs at him already (they are 8 too). Thanks for the review! because guess what…they are getting them and giving them

WHAT?!? My 18 y/o SON is giving blow jobs? How do you know? Is he on that internet thing? LOL

Sounds like a great book. I’d like to think I have a few more years before my 8 y/o needs “the talk” but I know better since the girl across the street and her friend both have flashed their boobs at him already (they are 8 too).

Thanks for the review!

]]> By: Sueb0b http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-57784 Sueb0b Sun, 07 Oct 2007 06:10:36 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/#comment-57784 I started having sex to find out what sex was like. If I had had some honest answers, I could have postponed becoming sexually active until I was truly ready - which would have been at least 3-5 years later. I started having sex to find out what sex was like. If I had had some honest answers, I could have postponed becoming sexually active until I was truly ready – which would have been at least 3-5 years later.

]]> By: canoe chick http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-57782 canoe chick Sun, 07 Oct 2007 03:00:05 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/2007/10/06/third-base-aint-what-it-used-to-be/#comment-57782 Your Majesty, I have been a junior high teacher, and in my last year of my education degree, I was lucky enough to be partnered with a woman who was an amazing teacher, in a fantastic school. For my final "project" in her classroom, we taught sex ed for a week. That's right, A WEEK. We did it all: condoms on bananas, experiments that showed how quickly an STD can make the rounds, but best of all, we were just open and honest with our students. I will never forget the two of us sitting there answering questions about birth control, explaining why "withdrawal" wasn't going to cut it if they wanted to make it to graduation without a baby, and in trying to explain some aspect of it, I said something to the effect of"well, it ends up all over your stomach girls". The looks on those grade eight faces!! I KNOW how grateful those kids were for honest, clear, true and relevant info about sex, and I was thrilled to give it to them. (Then the next year I was teaching in a Catholic school. Not so much with the condoms and bananas, much to my dismay). Teaching REAL sex ed before it was too late was one of the highlights of being a junior high teacher for me. I can imagine it is going to be much harder to have those talks with my own kids, but I also know how incredibly important it is, that my kids sex ed not be learned entirely from playground whispers. I have seen the studies people, "abstinence-only" educations is a JOKE, it doesn't work and it puts your kids at risk. Demand better, and provide better yourself! Your Majesty,
I have been a junior high teacher, and in my last year of my education degree, I was lucky enough to be partnered with a woman who was an amazing teacher, in a fantastic school. For my final “project” in her classroom, we taught sex ed for a week. That’s right, A WEEK. We did it all: condoms on bananas, experiments that showed how quickly an STD can make the rounds, but best of all, we were just open and honest with our students. I will never forget the two of us sitting there answering questions about birth control, explaining why “withdrawal” wasn’t going to cut it if they wanted to make it to graduation without a baby, and in trying to explain some aspect of it, I said something to the effect of”well, it ends up all over your stomach girls”. The looks on those grade eight faces!! I KNOW how grateful those kids were for honest, clear, true and relevant info about sex, and I was thrilled to give it to them. (Then the next year I was teaching in a Catholic school. Not so much with the condoms and bananas, much to my dismay). Teaching REAL sex ed before it was too late was one of the highlights of being a junior high teacher for me. I can imagine it is going to be much harder to have those talks with my own kids, but I also know how incredibly important it is, that my kids sex ed not be learned entirely from playground whispers. I have seen the studies people, “abstinence-only” educations is a JOKE, it doesn’t work and it puts your kids at risk. Demand better, and provide better yourself!

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