Comments on: The Power of Passion http://queenofspainblog.com/2008/10/20/the-power-of-passion/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:50:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Erin W. http://queenofspainblog.com/2008/10/20/the-power-of-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-63855 Erin W. Mon, 20 Oct 2008 23:28:58 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/?p=1189#comment-63855 Hey, girlie. I actually 'Stumbled' onto your site by way of the Prop 8 post - and have read just about everything I can get my hands on from your site. I'm so sorry that the issue has gotten so heated, but it's not easy for people to read opposition to their beliefs. I admit it, I don't like reading stuff promoting Prop. 8. Today, in my comp class, the guy who sits behind me said that he's voting for McCain (good for you, that's your right, dude.) but he finished it with, "Anyone who votes otherwise is a f-ing retard who deserves to be sent to Texas and smacked up-side their head with a brick." I really wanted to turn around and slap him. I would want to do the same if he felt that way about anyone opposing Obama too... Anyway, it's hard not to respond to something that opposes how you feel. Good for you for continuing to fight the good fight for what you believe in, and proposing a decent argument in the face of adversity. (oh, and sweetness for the kids!) Hey, girlie. I actually ‘Stumbled’ onto your site by way of the Prop 8 post – and have read just about everything I can get my hands on from your site.
I’m so sorry that the issue has gotten so heated, but it’s not easy for people to read opposition to their beliefs.
I admit it, I don’t like reading stuff promoting Prop. 8. Today, in my comp class, the guy who sits behind me said that he’s voting for McCain (good for you, that’s your right, dude.) but he finished it with, “Anyone who votes otherwise is a f-ing retard who deserves to be sent to Texas and smacked up-side their head with a brick.”
I really wanted to turn around and slap him. I would want to do the same if he felt that way about anyone opposing Obama too…
Anyway, it’s hard not to respond to something that opposes how you feel.
Good for you for continuing to fight the good fight for what you believe in, and proposing a decent argument in the face of adversity.
(oh, and sweetness for the kids!)

]]> By: Aaron Brazell http://queenofspainblog.com/2008/10/20/the-power-of-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-63853 Aaron Brazell Mon, 20 Oct 2008 21:24:33 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/?p=1189#comment-63853 Well there it is. The cycle continues. Well there it is. The cycle continues.

]]> By: Queen of Spain http://queenofspainblog.com/2008/10/20/the-power-of-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-63852 Queen of Spain Mon, 20 Oct 2008 21:18:33 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/?p=1189#comment-63852 I'm disappointed and hurt, which is where that post came from. That post is from a place of being terribly hurt by anyone who would deny rights to other humans. I insulted those who insult MY family and MY friends. And that came from a defensive place. Not an offensive one. It's a vicious cycle. I’m disappointed and hurt, which is where that post came from. That post is from a place of being terribly hurt by anyone who would deny rights to other humans. I insulted those who insult MY family and MY friends. And that came from a defensive place. Not an offensive one. It’s a vicious cycle.

]]> By: Aaron Brazell http://queenofspainblog.com/2008/10/20/the-power-of-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-63849 Aaron Brazell Mon, 20 Oct 2008 20:56:39 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/?p=1189#comment-63849 Let me be clear (again) from my perspective. I am not angry. I am disappointed and hurt. And not because you insulted everything sacred (no pun intended) in my life. You insulted family, friends, colleagues. You painted everyone in very stark black and white fashions that shows more about your own biases than it does about any of theirs. While I still continue to consider you a friend, you have damaged that seriously. Mess with me, okay. Don't mess with my family. I know them more than you ever will or more than you assume you do. Let me be clear (again) from my perspective. I am not angry. I am disappointed and hurt. And not because you insulted everything sacred (no pun intended) in my life. You insulted family, friends, colleagues. You painted everyone in very stark black and white fashions that shows more about your own biases than it does about any of theirs.

While I still continue to consider you a friend, you have damaged that seriously. Mess with me, okay. Don’t mess with my family. I know them more than you ever will or more than you assume you do.

]]> By: that girl http://queenofspainblog.com/2008/10/20/the-power-of-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-63848 that girl Mon, 20 Oct 2008 20:37:35 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/?p=1189#comment-63848 I loved the Prop 8 post so much, I think I was gay by the time I finished reading it. Rock on, Queenie. I loved the Prop 8 post so much, I think I was gay by the time I finished reading it. Rock on, Queenie.

]]> By: Queen of Spain http://queenofspainblog.com/2008/10/20/the-power-of-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-63847 Queen of Spain Mon, 20 Oct 2008 20:16:49 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/?p=1189#comment-63847 Thanks. Thanks.

]]> By: Lucretia Pruitt http://queenofspainblog.com/2008/10/20/the-power-of-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-63845 Lucretia Pruitt Mon, 20 Oct 2008 19:14:35 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/?p=1189#comment-63845 Oh hon. You passion is part of what I adore about you. Do I always agree with your message? No. But that's irrelevant. I love how passionately you hold to your beliefs and how passionately you express them. You can yell at me (and have - and I yelled back! even tho it has been awhile) and I will still respect you and care for our friendship. Real relationships are founded on the understanding that the other person is just as flawed as we are ourselves - that no one is going to do what we want all the time. People are many faceted. For as many times as you are passionate to the point of screaming, you are also calm and rational and analytical. Just be you. That's who we love. Screaming and all. (Okay, maybe we don't love the screaming sometimes? But YOU we always do. :)) Oh hon. You passion is part of what I adore about you.
Do I always agree with your message? No. But that’s irrelevant. I love how passionately you hold to your beliefs and how passionately you express them.

You can yell at me (and have – and I yelled back! even tho it has been awhile) and I will still respect you and care for our friendship.

Real relationships are founded on the understanding that the other person is just as flawed as we are ourselves – that no one is going to do what we want all the time. People are many faceted. For as many times as you are passionate to the point of screaming, you are also calm and rational and analytical.

Just be you. That’s who we love. Screaming and all. (Okay, maybe we don’t love the screaming sometimes? But YOU we always do. :) )

]]> By: Meg http://queenofspainblog.com/2008/10/20/the-power-of-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-63843 Meg Mon, 20 Oct 2008 19:03:06 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/?p=1189#comment-63843 I think what helps me is holding steadfast to the notion that everyone I'm having a conversation with has a life and a history of their own. I may not agree with them or like where they've ended up, but I also have to acknowledge that I don't have the whole picture, regardless of how much I might dislike what I'm seeing. I know plenty of people in my life who hold some crazy views that don't match up with the rest of what I know about them -- and in getting them to explain the why, I learn a ton about how to reach out to them and persuade them to consider something different. Sure, it can take more time, and yes... you aren't always going to like what you find. But those kinds of conversations build lasting change and make people feel heard. And even when they don't change anything, you can still sleep at night knowing you did your best to be a human in the midst of the mess. There's a big difference between tempering your passion and compromising your passion. I think what helps me is holding steadfast to the notion that everyone I’m having a conversation with has a life and a history of their own. I may not agree with them or like where they’ve ended up, but I also have to acknowledge that I don’t have the whole picture, regardless of how much I might dislike what I’m seeing. I know plenty of people in my life who hold some crazy views that don’t match up with the rest of what I know about them — and in getting them to explain the why, I learn a ton about how to reach out to them and persuade them to consider something different.

Sure, it can take more time, and yes… you aren’t always going to like what you find. But those kinds of conversations build lasting change and make people feel heard. And even when they don’t change anything, you can still sleep at night knowing you did your best to be a human in the midst of the mess.

There’s a big difference between tempering your passion and compromising your passion.

]]> By: Jillian http://queenofspainblog.com/2008/10/20/the-power-of-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-63841 Jillian Mon, 20 Oct 2008 17:21:46 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/?p=1189#comment-63841 I'm at the opposite end of the spectrum. I, too, am deeply saddened by the problems going on all around me. But I'm largely unaffected, I think because 1) I make an effort to do what I can, 2) I realize my limitations, and 3) there's always terrible stuff, so nothing is REALLY new. Perhaps it would be better if I got worked up. But I do know that I've achieved some measure of peace. I’m at the opposite end of the spectrum. I, too, am deeply saddened by the problems going on all around me. But I’m largely unaffected, I think because 1) I make an effort to do what I can, 2) I realize my limitations, and 3) there’s always terrible stuff, so nothing is REALLY new. Perhaps it would be better if I got worked up. But I do know that I’ve achieved some measure of peace.

]]> By: Marjorie http://queenofspainblog.com/2008/10/20/the-power-of-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-63840 Marjorie Mon, 20 Oct 2008 17:19:10 +0000 http://queenofspainblog.com/?p=1189#comment-63840 Oh, no. Typo in my comment above. "I'm" should be "I." :) Oh, no. Typo in my comment above. “I’m” should be “I.” :)

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