Comments on: Happy Valentine’s Day…you big jerk

By: Louise R

Louise R — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 02:29:33 +0000

I’ve been married for nearly 10 years now and dated for 2 prior to that. My hubby used to be a professional chef, so the “early years” were a gourmet food fest. But, after a few years under our belt and one 4 year old later, our tradition is much simpler – cheeseburgers. It used to be In-N-Out Burger when we lived in L.A., but any cheeseburger joint will do. I heart cheeseburgers. No big expectations for present. This year he gave me a box of 9 milk chocolate truffles (no dark for me!) that were uniquely selected based on my fave flavors – coconut, hazelnut, pistachio. Very simple, yet super thoughtful.

By: RiceWenchie

RiceWenchie — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 15:36:08 +0000

I realized this year that for the first time ever Valentine’s Day is not an important celebration for me. My husband makes it obvious everyday that he loves me ALOT, no matter what. The one day we do celebrate our marriage and relationship is March 2, the first day we spoke after a 15 year deafening silence. He was my best friend 20 years ago, he is my best friend today.

Traditions, even the seemingly small ones, are important. )

By: readergirl

readergirl — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 00:53:54 +0000

20 years ago, when we were dating, my husband and i broke up on every valentine’s day- he was a total tool and I was 18 or 19, so sue me! the corker came as we were headed into a retreat for engaged couples and he gave me my valentine’s card with a contact lens case tucked in it. i was sure i was destined for a lifetime of crap gifts, so i returned the ring right there. however, we are both cheap and had paid for the retreat, so we went in anyway.

much like you and your hubby, 20 years later, we keep it low-key, laugh about that awful night and then argue all over again. ain’t love grand???

By: amy

amy — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 19:09:04 +0000

That is so funny… I was going to post something about how absolutely crappy Valentine’s day is, but how it is sort of endearing, too, and you just posted it! Maybe that’s the way of married, parental Valentine’s Day? I think it’s ingenious that you’ve acknowledged your tradition… We’re still working on that! LOL…

By: Janet

Janet — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 03:51:52 +0000

In the 1960s I found it odd that only girls/women received chocolate heart shaped Valentines. My brothers never did. I do not believe in feeling pressure to spend money on a gift “showing love” or a made up event like a Holiday. Yet I love celebrations and ADORE chocolate… we make cards using found beads, buttons, magazine goofy cutouts. After 24 years together with my hubby I have a lovely collection of these cards and our 13 year old adds her artistic hand. OK, I confess, I do want chocolate but not because I am a gal!

By: Jendi

Jendi — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 20:12:34 +0000

Thanks so much for the link!
I had to laugh at “It’s certainly a married couple’s VDay.”
My husband is pretty sweet and usually remembers. I’m the one that forgets and then I feel horrible. It was a bit more exciting before we had so much to fight about.

By: Allison Blass

Allison Blass — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 18:39:51 +0000

Well, I’m not married, and this is my first Valentine’s Day – ever – well, at least one with a boyfriend – so I am actually looking forward to it. We decided we wanted to see Speed-the-Plow with William H. Macy before it closes on the 22nd, and we’re going dutch so we bought our own tickets. Then we’re going to a restaurant that I have already been to and he hasn’t that we thought would be semi-affordable (did I mention this is happening in NYC? Land of “Is the food laced with gold?” prices?). We’re exchanging presents, but pretty cheap. My gift to him is just $30 and it’s not even that romantic, it’s just something I wanted to get him so I am. Then we’ll probably go home and play cribbage and watch made for TV movies.

By: LSM

LSM — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 03:39:50 +0000

Fortunately my husband and I are in agreement regarding our lack of celebration on Valentine’s Day. We decided pretty early on to just exchange cards and call it good. Honestly, I can’t think of anything less romantic than trying to battle the crowds at a restaurant this year since Valentine’s Day falls on a Saturday.

By: dizzymum

dizzymum — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 23:56:11 +0000

My husband’s not even going to be in the country this Valentine’s Day! He’s overseas for work.
But even if he was, we don’t make a big deal of it. When we were broke and starting a family I made him promise not to spend inflated prices on roses or flowers on V. Day. And I tell him not to bring my chocolates either, since I’m watching my weight. However, we usually have a nice dinner and a bottle of wine at home with the kids, and maybe watch a movie after they’ve gone to bed.
This year, we will probably go out for dinner some time after he gets home. Part of me still wishes for roses or flowers, but I know it ain’t gonna happen!

By: Rachel

Rachel — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 22:30:48 +0000

Every February 14th, my husband wakes up, rolls over and says “Happy ValenSLIMES day!!” and that’s the end of it. Strangely, after a decade, I find I look forward to it……