I normally am not a Sunday morning comic girl (what? I like the food and local sections) but I happened upon Frazz this morning, and well…food for thought:

Long ago, over a decade now, when I lived in this other place and was this other person, I thought it mattered.

I thought it mattered who I knew and what I wore. I thought it mattered what I drove and how I walked. Who I called, who I saw, where I lived.

I still call this place my home, and I still call many of these strangers “friends.” Odd, considering my family spends its nights on another coast and these strangers never call.

Today, I looked out a window at a white covered lake. I put on a funky orange hat, mismatched gloves, and thick boots. I crunched through fresh snow with my children, like a child. My hair static filled and flyaway, my face rosey and flushed.

I did not care.

Its odd to come “home” to a foreign place where so much of your life you cared, only to find yourself older and indifferent. Where so much of your life you calculated, only to find yourself carefree.

There is a piece of my heart that remains here, but it no longer beats as loud or as strong. It now ticks, and thumps, and sometimes skips as my little ones tell relatives they just met of their inherited quirks.

Part of me was never fully comfortable here. Everyone knew it. I was teased and joshed for being different. Never enough to alienate me, but always enough to make me eccentric. When I left the mid-west for California, no one was surprised. Although many believed I would eventually “settle down” and come “home.”

As I play here with my children, despite my age and despite my having found peace…I am still asked when I will return. When will my husband find work here and when will I move my life and my loves to this place they seem to think should ground us all.

I don’t harbor them any ill will, as I did in years past. I don’t even really answer anymore. I just put on my funny orange hat, remind my children we will leave for home in a few days, and give them hugs as if to squeeze my new found peace and confidence into their puzzled little bodies. You see, they too are different here. They are my children, so they are automatically branded. So be it. They simple nod their little heads and struggle to wear “snow pants” and “mittens.” They laugh and attempt to run and ask questions that make the locals laugh. Why would my child know what a “sled” might be?

They have no idea the conflict in my heart over this land, these people. The love and the hate and the longing to belong somewhere and to something that never fully accepted me. They will never know. What they will know, is the pride of being different. The joy of experiencing new things.

And the freedom of a funny orange hat.

I guess we all saw this coming.

Poor girl never got her act together. I have no idea why, but I always liked her.

I realize that’s ridiculous. She was not the smartest. She used sex to get ahead. But it was all she had. Literally. I always gave her a pass.

Britney never will get a pass from me, but Anna Nicole always did.

I’m an enigima enigma.
I think I always thought of her as the really stupid, “bad” version of me. Life out of control. Drugs everywhere. Boobs all over the place.

Rest in peace Anna Nicole.