Just because some of us have OLD AS HELL websites doesn’t mean you idiots should be trying to hack them all day. Trust me, there is NOTHING HERE. Some old links. That’s it.
Now Go Away. Get off my lawn. Etc. So on and so forth.
In Defense of SILLY: The Unstoppable Princess Boy
May 18, 2017 by 8 Comments
I’m not going to lie, things have been heavy around here for the past few weeks. Death, hospitalization, coming out, state testing, travel for mom and other serious stresses.
So when I picked up the kids yesterday knowing Hala needed supplies for a project I decided to throw a little levity in our lives.
Hala was in full grump mode, while Jack slumped in his seat. Neither happy we had to run an errand instead of heading straight home.
We ended up at Party City of all places and as soon as we walked in I went into mischief mode.
I declared ALL CANDY AND SILLY TOYS UP FOR GRABS!!!!
They both looked at me like I was nuts.
They grinned cautiously while following me down the aisles as I quickly found the items we came for and shifted directly to everything we didn’t come for.
What started out as buying plastic tablecloths turned into a mad dash of penny candy being thrown in the basket, laughter, endless sarcasm and jokes, super balls being bounced back and forth, up and down to each other down the length of the aisles, and Hala deciding he was moved by my mischief enough to lose the grump.
So moved Hala began grabbing bags of tiny rubber ducks, kazoos, princess crowns & wands…and the plea: Mom I NEED to throw these at everyone in class tomorrow for the end of testing!!!!
I didn’t even blink. Of course you can.
Chaos and giggles ensued as Hala, Jack and myself literally tore apart the store with wild hilarity and rambunctiousness. We considered every ridiculous plastic toy from Chinese yo-yo’s to a bag of pig erasers. LOUDLY from across and THROUGH aisles…LONG aisles GREAT for testing each contraption.
We need to use a Sharpie to make some of the ducks Emo! Done.
We need pixie stix too! Done.
Throws several more super balls towards Jack while watching his eyes get wide, entirely astonished yet elated I had done it while simultaneously trying to capture each crazy bouncing ball. Done!
We need fun dip! Done. And smarties! Done.
I stopped short of breaking the seal on the tiny My Little Pony container to blow bubbles….but was close.
We need my FAVORITE: white rock candy- and stocked up in obscene amounts! Done.
In the end Hala was asking the cashier a million questions about if anyone has ever done this before (no)-Do you get many people like us (no)-what about families that act silly (no), totally forgetting his social anxiety as Mom threw out the store behavior rule book.
Jack, shaking his head, said ‘Mom, sometimes you surprise me and I don’t know why that surprises me still.‘
Adrenaline pumping we carried our many bags to the car and for the moment everything was joyful. Everything was silly. Everything was perfect.
In case you are wondering, Hala left for school this morning giddy at the prospect of tossing his toys at classmates- wielding a wand, wearing a crown and declaring he is an UNSTOPPABLE PRINCESS BOY.
Jack looked at me and said, ‘Aren’t we all?‘
In honor of the Unstoppable Princess Boy in us all go out and be a little silly today. 
I’ll be watching the inauguration
January 17, 2017 by 3 Comments
I feel the anger. I feel the frustration.
I also feel the wheels of history and democracy turning.
I’ll be watching the inauguration. I’m not going to boycott because my gal lost. I’m not going to refuse to watch out of spite.
I’m going to watch history church on and on. I’m going to watch the transition of power continue, as it has.
I’m going to fight from the inside to keep ACA aka Obamacare stay. I want millions of people to keep their insurance. I’m going to fight to keep abortion safe and legal.
I’m going to fight for my son and daughter to marry whomever they choose.
I refuse to fight in the street, or fight in random marches.
I’m going to fight with legislation. I’m going to fight to bills, laws, hours and hours of committees and bipartisan hard work.
It’s time to work hard, not give in. It’s time to dig deep, not slap some paint on a sign and hope someone sees it.
Victory is won when bills get signed.
Grief
October 23, 2016 by 6 Comments
I need to write.
Every day it gets easier. Every day it gets harder. I’m slogging through the days, some seem normal, others seem like a surreal half-life.
Grief is like a fog. It clouds you. It comforts you. It brings you to your knees at moments so benign you had no warning.
I thought I turned a corner. Since my father died I have gone from crying all day, to having zero tears left in me, to crying once again. I went weeks without tearing up. Two, maybe three. Almost as if I was refusing to acknowledge the reality of it all, refusing to let it control me.
I guess I’m in the denial stage. If we’re keeping track. Is anger next? I’m not angry yet. I’m too damn sad to be angry. Just when I thought I could simply go back to life, grief reminded me and sat me back down on the couch. Not yet, dear. Not yet.
Next week will mark two months. Two entire months without my father. Countless skating lessons for my daughter that he would have loved. Hundreds of conversations with my son, trading wit and barbs that he would have laughed at. Missed phone calls from me, every day after dropping off my kids at school, that we could have used to talk and talk and talk. I want to talk about the election with him. I want to talk about the Cubs going to the World Series with him. I want to make the eggplant parmesan he loved and make up the guest room, with special stuffed animals and signs from the kids so he can come stay, like he was supposed to.
I almost feel numb and breathless thinking of what should have been. I don’t know how I am supposed to act. Should I be moving on now? Should I be able to do more than sit and think? I can barely put on my clothes let alone move on. If I could stay in my bed all day, I would. Getting moving is challenging. A chore. In fact, everything is a chore.
Life feels broken. Certainly not the same. I almost feel guilty enjoying life. We took the kids to Disney on Friday and when I found myself so thankful and happy for my wonderful family I immediately felt guilty that I was enjoying myself. I assume this feeling will fade as time goes on, but right now it’s like I’m in a limbo of sorts, just trying to find my footing.
In the weeks since, so many people have offered their condolences. Helped pay to replace my bracelet that holds his ashes. Reached out to see how I was doing and to check up on me. For these kind gestures I am eternally grateful. Family, even extended family, has been so amazing I again feel guilty. Should I suffer more? Less? See how haywire my thinking is?
I just needed to write tonight.
“Is the wall here yet?”
August 15, 2016 by 1 Comment
Those are the words of a small child, a Latino Kindergartner in Tennessee to be exact, who his teacher says was “told by classmates that he will be deported and trapped behind a wall” —and he asks every day, “Is the wall here yet?”
Think about that for a second.
In other parts of the country “some are using the word Trump as a taunt or as a chant as they gang up on others. Muslim children are being called terrorist or ISIS or bomber.”
This is all from a study done by the Southern Poverty Law Center. They report:
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More than two-thirds of the teachers reported that students—mainly immigrants, children of immigrants and Muslims—have expressed concerns or fears about what might happen to them or their families after the election.
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More than half have seen an increase in uncivil political discourse.
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More than one-third have observed an increase in anti-Muslim or anti-immigrant sentiment.
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More than 40 percent are hesitant to teach about the election.
What on earth have we done? Have you seen that ad by Hillary Clinton’s campaign? The one about “our children are watching?” You need to:
Have you talked to your own kids about the election? Now that we’re back to school the instances of hate are, if the Southern Poverty Law Center’s study is right, going to rise.
Donald Trump doesn’t have the temperament, judgement, or frankly the class to be President of this great country. How can we possibly go from what has to be one of the classiest President’s in Barack Obama to someone resembling your ranting, drunk, used-car selling uncle at Thanksgiving?
It’s typical to say “think of the children.” But really, when you have to turn off a Trump rally we really need to start thinking of the children.
I’m glad Hillary Clinton has, and I hope you’ll be voting for her in November.
All I Want is a Garden
July 23, 2015 by 4 Comments
Denial, anger, … acceptance? Or is there one between there?
Meh. I’m somewhere between denial and anger as my CDiff has returned despite the over 90% success rate of the transplant I underwent before the 4th of July. We will try another tried a second one, upping my chances to 98%, but that one failed as well. Leaving me in this hospital for 17 days and counting.
17 days of wondering why me.
17 days of worrying.
17 days of continued bad news and frustration and stress.
Here is the thing…all I want to do is plant my tomatoes and veggies. This has been the first summer in 10 years of living in this home I haven’t gotten my garden in on time. While planting now wouldn’t be ideal, it’s also not bad considering our climate has been entirely messed up.
Yes, in this epic, multi-year battle which now includes a fight for my life with a super bug, I just want my garden in place.
My garden in place = normalcy.
My garden in place = hope.
My garden in place simply soothes me and makes me feel as though it’s all going to be ok.
For the first time in all of this I’m honestly not sure how everything is going to turn out. I’ve been sure, over and over again it was going to be ok. But right now there are so many other things going on and so many lives hurting and just so MUCH for the first time in my life, I’m not sure even my superwoman abilities are grand enough to make all of this ok.
So yeah, I sent myself some flowers at the hospital because I deserve them. I remain grateful for family that will show up in 24 hours to help when things go south. But I need to find a solution that doesn’t disrupt everyone’s lives except mine.
I’m still searching.
I don’t know if my garden will be planted. I don’t know if my search will lead to anything I can control. But I am still here. And I guess that will have to do for now.
The (Digital) Kids Are Alright
March 16, 2015 by 4 Comments
I really think you need to suck it up and realize what was normal for US as kids is not normal for OUR kids.
Sure, get fresh air, get exercise, go play outside…but let’s face it, when it comes to ‘play a game’ or ‘read a book’ all of that is now done digitally.
Yup, that means their iPads or their computers or their phones…ONLINE.
I was recently reading a few posts about bloggers limiting screen time, not even allowing their kids any screen time and even some who refuse to allow their children to play any games at all or use any ‘smart’ devices.
Not to start another Mommy war but… are you TRYING to handicap your child? You do realize the world is a very different place than the one we grew up in and certainly WORLDS away from the one our parents grew up in- meaning just about everything is digital these days.
My kids research their homework using their iPads. My kids play with the their friends in virtual worlds like Animal Jam and Club Penguin. My son meets up with his buddies in Destiny and Borderlands. That’s social and educational.
Their projects in school are in minecraft and contain websites with links to their homemade videos. They link to their sources instead of write them down. They dictate their essays and email their teachers.
They know more about cyberbullying than kickball and can rattle off more youtube video makers than actors in Hollywood.
I’m entirely ok with all of this. So is their Dad.
Go on, hate away. But my kids are learning to do all of the things we learned to do, just throw in code and type at a much younger age. Yes, they pilot drones and use google maps to make sure our roof isn’t hiding any wayward frisbees…and yes, they stare at a screen as much as they like. It doesn’t mean they aren’t learning and it doesn’t mean they don’t get any exercise.
It just means times have changed and the book they are reading is stored on their iPad and the homework they are doing requires they watch a video embedded on the Smithsonian website.
Then to relax they put on their headphones and mics and have a virtual playdate with their buddies across town I can’t drive them to anyway because dinner is nearly ready.
So do your kids a favor…lay off the strict rules and timers when it comes to their gaming consoles and phones and tablets and computers. Think of it as your parents forcing you to shut off your radio or your walkman or putting away your TeenBeat or your D&D game. Actually, it’s more like them making you come in from outside instead of creating that imaginary game with the neighborhood kids…because that’s exactly what our kids are doing with their friends, it’s just their imaginary worlds are way more colorful and their costumes are super cool.
So yeah, that
January 24, 2015 by Leave a Comment
Three hospital stays since returning from Hawaii. Not entirely how I envisioned the past 6 weeks.
I’m coping. I’m trying hard not to fall into that dark place and I’m taking solace in words from the neurologist during my last stay…things will change, and this time, next year, I could be a very different woman.
This is chronic illness.
How are the kids and husband coping? Sigh. Can you hear the wave of guilt hitting me as I type that sentence?
I thought, instead of dwell, I would just say that I’m ok. We’re ok.
I will know more Monday and I will know if that promise…that hope…that doctor really can change this life of mine.
In the meantime, go check out our December vacation where, for at least a short while, I felt like I was whole.
Well, almost.
Getting there.
